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Parker's avatar

I think you've found your true calling

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Amica Terra's avatar

1. continues to be easy. Most people spend at least 15 consecutive years of their life not having sex, and they figure it out eventually. Find someone who you have mutual affection with and they will be indulgent of your re-learning.

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Florence Bacus's avatar

1 is easy. Just find someone you’re in love with (and who is in love with you) and the sex will automatically be good.

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Leonie B Predic's avatar

bitch it’s called a wallet on chain

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Austin's avatar

Like Bitcoin?

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Will's avatar

w/r/t 2, my advice is to go to trivia nights and activity-based clubs. Not a sure thing, but I think there is a good chance you will eventually make friends there. It's worked for me, at least.

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Pelorus's avatar

1. Don't think of sex as a homogenous activity that you just do like riding a bike, but an act of exploration and getting to know another person, including their desires and preferences. It's more like a conversation than a performance.

2. When you're young, friendship is easy because you have a lot of time and structure that supports friendship: you're forced into the same educational places and neighbourhoods with the same people day in, day out. When that falls away and people get more time poor in middle age, it's easy to let the friendships wither. So build more routine around your friendships: a regular meetup (you can frame it around a hobby), and outside of this ask the friends you do have to meet up at the cafe or go for a walk or invite them over for dinner. Make a habit of it so you're seeing some friends every week.

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